HUG Corner: Thought for the Week 4/30/18
May 1, 2018
Healing After Loss (Martha Whitmore Hickman)
“The strands are all there: to the memory nothing is ever lost.”
-Eudora Welty
“When we have lost a loved one, we often experience a kind of generalized fear. Our life has been so shaken. Is anything secure? What else could be taken away?
One of the fears may well be, will we forget? Will the memory of the life we have shared also slip away without the reinforcement of the person’s presence, and the shared conversations about past times?
The shock of loss may for a time take away some of the kinder, more joyous memories – or make them too painful to remember. But as we begin to feel better – no so weighted with grief – the empty spaces in the patchwork quilt of memory will begin to fill in again. It will be like finding a lost treasure – the more valuable because it slipped from sight for a while.
Memories of the life I shared with my loved one are stored in my brain. What I need I will find.”